They state – “Our dream relationship often turns into a nightmare”. So, what’s the good news about this not good news?
Francesca and Stan Levine have been married for 54 years and have a Psychology/Counselling /Coaching practice aptly named “Relationship Rescue Institute”. They offer marriage counselling, relationship counselling and couples therapy in Melbourne.
With their own personal experience and multiple professional qualifications they teach couples how to move from anger and pain into loving connection. That’s the good news about the not good news.
Imago Relationship Therapy posits the following:
- We are born in connection
- We are meant to be in connection
- We are wounded in connection
- We are healed in connection
Most arguments are caused by the need to be right, and they inevitably lead to the emotional pain of a break in connection; you must feel and express that pain creatively in order to heal it that’s E-MOTION.
That pain alerts you to the relationship dis-connection and dis-ease, in the same way that physical pain alerts the brain to potential disease or injury in the body.
Pain is, therefore, valuable. The emotional pain that creates disruption/interference in connection almost always comes from unresolved issues from one’s past usually childhood.
Francesca and Stan are no strangers to childhood trauma: Stan as a child lived through the London Blitz during World War 2, and Francesca was born into a Holocaust survivor and refugee family. Both have experienced a journey from survival to triumph.
If we use the pain to learn and grow, that helps reconnection to an updated, more mature model of the relationship.
Francesca and Stan know a lot about relationships what the pitfalls are (the not good news) and how to deal with them in a way that promotes emotional nourishment, growth and love (the good news)
Falling in love is easy but staying in love requires effort and the rewards for that effort are HUGE.
All relationships go through cycles of love, rupture and repair. However, many couples stay in rupture, not seeing the benefits of using the conflicts as opportunities to heal and grow.
It’s unlikely you can heal what you don’t feel. Couples trigger each other’s unresolved issues.
Working through the pain of out of date reactive behaviours helps us to re-connect with the repressed parts of ourselves, to reveal the gifts of our essence. This enables more love instead of negative protective behaviour.
Francesca and Stan through their long-lasting relationship have experienced the ups and downs that all relationships go through. They have learned how to transform their own painful ruptures caused by the need to be right, by recognising who each of them really is in their essence, discarding the bullshit and out of date reactivity.
This leads to the relationship repair through learning, safety and compassion, and on to their loving soul to soul connection
Located in Melbourne, Australia, they have helped many hundreds of couples locally and, with the magic of Zoom, also inter-state and globally; they aim to show how the improvement in couples’ relationships snowballs into other relationships children, extended family, friends and work. By extension, this makes the whole world more harmonious.
It takes courage to heal and grow through relational pain so that we can contribute to healing the planet, one relationship at a time.
For more information:
Company Name: Australian Institute of Change and the Relationship Rescue Institute
Company website: https://relationshiprescueinstitute.com.au
Social media link: https://instagram.com/think.network?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Email: afolayano65@gmail.com
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